In the mist of chaos

and seemingly loving it.

today is a nice day. sun is peeking, the house is in a mess, it's a lazy sunday afternoon, done lots of nice unrememberable doings, but somehow it has been very satisfying.

i did not mention that we are moving. we are moving to north burnaby where apparently there is a nice neighbourhood for the kidlets and a suburban breed of lifestyle that we are looking for. I want to know my neighbours damn it!

i grew up a while back (so i think), where we lived in a neighbour on top of a hill, where us kids roamed free, our parents knew each other, moms had women type gatherings, parties and tea chit chats, dads worked crazy hours but had men things they did, we had big events, like new years and christmas had neighbourhood parties held by individuals who liked hosting them ( my parents were one of them) where the whole neighbourhood and relatives from everywhere would get together, catch up on each other, socialize and basically enjoy and experience each other. Some of us would go on vacations together, it was a very enjoyable, interesting and living time. Of course, there are cons to this, where everyone knew everyone's downfalls, and people are nosy, privacy is definitely scarce. There was a lady I remember who had an affair with a man down her street, both had families, although probaby not to her, it was a very interesting story that unfolded that speaks to our tolerance and non, and just the flaws and lovliness of being human. as a child, there are lessons and observations that were quite remarkable especially for her own children.

i read a book by M Gladwell, that implies that parents may having an influence on their kids, but most studies are showing that the people they meet daily, the neighbourhood, schools, and encounters are far far more influential in shaping what they actually do, their choices, their personality....

this lack of control is sometimes quite frightening to me as a mom, but more so as an adult. An example he gave, was something as simple as j walking. a person may decide to j walk but sees that no one else is, so he is a bit undecided, then someone does, and he follows...just a few days ago i we were trying to find parking downtown but it wasn't 6pm, sis mentioned hey if there are cars there and usually there are, we can follow....i didn't want to take the risk because i have a series of parking tickets and am trying to turn into a new leave:) anyway, we observed that cars were parked in a collective, sitting in their cars waiting, no one got out as it wasn't six yet.

simple gestures, may even be insignificant, coincidences at times, but read the book things to ponder anyway. basically we subconsciously do a lot of unexplained, illogical things. there are other concepts as well that are quite worth thinking about...

ok rambling, not exactly what i set out to blog about but now i'm hungry...so this is it for now:)